Convenient Morals
What's happening with people and morality nowadays? Seems to me, they spell it like c-o-n-v-e-n-i-e-n-c-e. The buzzword for bedding anyone now is ‘fondness’. You just need to be fond of the other person to make out. Toe-dipping into relationships is so “in”. In fact, relationship is a big word for these alliances that get made and broken with alarming convenience - that word again!
Everything happens for a reason: let’s get closer; we were destined to meet… so on and so forth. Some of the cheesy pick-up lines are uttered with amazing poise. The problem is that this malaise is no longer restricted to the diseased nouveau riche sections of the society. It is now threatening to infect the ever fragile urban middle class which is a torchbearer in any social milieu.
Let’s not blame only the workplace scenarios and equal opportunity for women for this. I guess there were fragile marriages earlier as well, but now people who take advantage of the fissures in these marriages are more accessible and come packaged in neat clothes, mouthing niceties with alarming ease. Smooth is the word for them.
In the 2000-flat society that we stay in Gurgaon, 75% residents work in call centres that are mushrooming in this part of NCR. Of these, 70% are living-in together. In the flat opposite ours, a call centre executive stayed for two years. Over the two years, he lived with four girl-friends over various time periods. Finally, he got married to a girl from his hometown, arranged by his parents. We have been witness to his grieving girlfriends many times, except when his parents visited they were hushed under the carpet. After that, two girls came and stayed with two boys for six months. After this, we have lost count or interest. In fact, everyone now treats this as a common scenario. It might have shocked frumpy aunties earlier but with time things are getting acceptable. We all behave like pigeons. If it’s not happening in my home, I am not concerned. That’s the common mentality all over
Some time ago, New York Times ran a feature on ‘FWB’ (Friends with benefits) -alliances prevalent amongst university students, wherein you have an intimate relationship with friends with no strings attached as per each other’s convenience. The article was based on research done within the students’ community by a well-known and reputed research firm. The FWBs are here now.
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