Cold November

I clearly remember the first day I met her in college. Tall, broad frame, straight hair, bulbous nose, lively eyes. She always looked as if she was hiding some mischief in those eyes, ready to laugh and spread the joy around. It was very easy to become her friend with her ready wit. A true joie de vivre was shining from her, always. I still remember the day when the most good looking guy in college fell to her charms and we were all left gasping. What has she got that we haven't? We didn't really see what men saw in her. She was as good looking as the rest of us were. What was it about her that so many boys made a beeline for her, wanting to chat her up, be her friend, be more ... And it was always her who wanted out of every crush first. She set the terms and dictated it. Not because she was high handed. She was in fact quite caring but she just always happened to fall out of love almost as soon as she fell in it, or maybe 6 months later, a typical Libran. We lost touch after...

So, How do you define love? you get hit by a lightning and feel "wow, this is it. I am in love." or do you take it slow, give it time, become a friend first and than think that it's the right time to make a move. or Do you take it so slow that 5 years pass by before your realize, in all your dumbness, "Omigod, was THAT love?" Well, it takes all kinds to make this world. For some Love is for keeps. For others its an ongoing process.... It happens, again and again, and then they can't really understand which is what? We are lucky to find love. Some confuse it with lust. Most men do. But I guess love cannot happen without lust. You need to have the basic chemistry right. Is companionship 'love'? Most married couples do have a lot of companionship. They tend to each other, care and do like each other a lot. I guess that's the essence of marriage, at least in traditional societies. It's a different ballgame, however, in more modern societies, ...